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I’m too Busy…You’re too Busy

Have you found, of late, that people are just “too busy.”  Too busy to return your phone call; too busy to life is like . . .answer an email or maybe you’ve been too busy to focus on what you want out of life?

It gets a little annoying when people share with you that they are “hectic,” “in a whirlwind,” “consumed,” “crazy” or too busy,” doesn’t it? It almost gets to the point of people bragging about how busy they are. Brigid Schulte, author of Overwhelmed: Work, Love and Play When No One Has the Time, interviewed Ann Burnett, who studies how language creates our reality, and discovered that “people are competing about being busy and it shows status. If you are busy, you are important.”  It seems that busyness is now extolled as a virtue, so people are almost to the point of being terrified of having “down-time” or, heaven forbid, a vacation. To proclaim such would be equivalent to saying you are a dinosaur with one foot in the grave.

Here’s a concept: John Robinson, a sociologist who studies time and created American Time Use Surveys, suggests that the answer to feeling oppressively busy is to stop telling yourself that you are so very, very busy, because the truth is we are less busy that we think we are. And, our insistence on our “busyness” adds unnecessary stress, bad decision-making, fractured relationships and exhaustion!  It’s that negative talk that run through your head taking away from your ability to be mindful of what you are doing and present in the moment.

Some ideas to release yourself from the chains of busyness include:

  • Set aside time to plan and set clear expectations of what “really” needs to be accomplished. (Not every to-do item is equal, you know).
  • Figuring out if every email need to be responded to immediately? Is there a way to organize your email using “rules” in your program (e.g., needs response; read later?). You know that email can wait, right? Your life can’t.
  • Shutting off your phone or putting it aside so you can watch the sunset; enjoy your child playing soccer; or laugh with a dear friend? Oh, and while you are chatting with a friend, brainstorm ways in which you can take control of your life!
  • Giving up the challenge of trying to be perfect. Instead of baking the “time-honored” cake that takes hours to put together, make cupcakes with a theme, perhaps even from a mix.
  • Offload what you can. Hire a cleaning service. If that isn’t an option, split the chores within your family

Getting rid of that feeling of being overwhelmed or constantly proclaiming to be so very busy, will help you focus on the important things in LIFE. Maybe it’s a new career or getting re-connected to your family and friends. I bet you are missed!

 

 

Hunting for a Job in 2015

job huntingDo a Professional Refresh

The number of people looking for jobs usually increases in January and it’s an ideal time for you to do a “refresh” on your approach. Do you want to stand out from other candidates and you just aren’t sure where to start? Work on updating your resume, contacting your references, and consider joining a professional group or association. Be sure to review your social media profiles and online activity so you know what information about yourself is in cyber space if a hiring manager were to search your name. Get rid of anything that may be objectionable or doesn’t reflect well on you personally (e.g., bad language).

Be True to Yourself

What do you want to do with your career? Remember this is your career, and you’re going to be the one going to work, not anyone else. Studies show that people who follow their own path, rather than someone else’s, are much happier in their personal and professional life.  Give some thought to this and how you may want to pursue your dreams!

Be Proactive

In 2015, most job hunting and contacting is via email.  Although it’s possible that a hiring manager might contact you about a position,  it’s rare and in reality, you most likely need to reach out and express your interest in a company or position. Sending an email, a note by snail mail or picking up the phone and getting in touch with a hiring manager at a company you want to work for shows you are interested.

Get prepared for the Job Interview

When you get that job interview, prepare, prepare, prepare.  Go to the company website and learn about their mission; their executives and their culture. Prepare so that the interviewer leaves your meeting thinking “I must have this person on the team!”  How do you do this? Focus on problems that you’ve solved in the past – have examples and numbers ready to provide the interviewer with the facts. Also, ask engaging questions about the position and company. Thank the interviewer for their time and don’t forget to follow-up with a thank you note or email. You’d be surprised how many people don’t do this any more!

Remain Calm

Job searching is a stressful process, and you may feel under pressure when you’re interviewing for a job.  Did you know that your ability to manage your emotions and stay calm under stress and pressure directly link to your performance? Looking for ways to stay calm while job hunting? Stay positive, stop negative thoughts, make sure you get enough sleep and remember to breathe.

Start your 2015 job search on the right track by being proactive, staying positive and pursuing the type of job that would get you excited on a daily basis.  Do you have questions?  Drop me an email.

Living the Dream

Too much time has passed since my last post.  It doesn’t mean that I haven’t thought about those of you who are looking for new jobs or exploring new dream-job-nowopportunities. It just means that I’ve had a lot going on and didn’t find time to write. (I know – shame on me). Well, I did have a major life change and move, so perhaps, you will forgive me? Let me explain. In a nutshell, I moved to my dream home very close to the ocean.  Yes, dreams do come true if you have faith and hold fast to your goals. (Of course, great stock options also help.)

Moving to the beach came about very quickly. I happened to be chatting with my brother in May and commented, “when I retire, I think I want to move to the beach.”  To which he replied, “why don’t you do it now?”  Well, that was a thought and I began to muse with others about this as an option. I chatted with my manager and she had no problem with me telecommuting. Yeah! I talked with my financial guy and he felt that it was a very good move for multiple reasons. Double Yeah!! I shared with my family my thoughts and, while we knew I would no longer be a stones throw from them (a.k.a. I could get a call and meet them within 30 minutes), I would be in an ideal location for summer “stop-overs” and more. (Some of the locals say that my first few summers will be very interesting with many “fly-by’s” and “stop-overs.” LOL! I hope so!!!)  So, it seemed moving was a good option and within three months I found an adorable house 5 miles from the ocean with everything I could possibly hope for: garage, fireplace, one level (no stairs), year round access to pool for exercising and screened-in porch. And, it’s two hours from the “fam,” so it’s close enough and, yet, not too far! (Do I sound like Goldilocks?) So, here I am- living the dream. But, enough about my dream.  What about yours?

Sometime, in the near future, take time to begin planning your dream career. Reflect and answer the following questions and see what themes you uncover:

1. My co-workers and friends always say that I’m great at _______________, because ___________________.

2. I’ve always wondered what it would be like to do __________________. It’s interesting to me because __________.

3. If I had a free Saturday that had to be spent “working” on something, I’d choose _________________, because __________.

4. If I could choose a person or friend to trade jobs with, I’d choose ___________________, because ____________.

5.  When I retire, I want to be known for ________________, because _____________________.

After you’ve answered these questions, take a moment to look at your answers. Do you see any common themes?  You may find very obvious patterns – for example, everything on your list has to do with mechanics or cooking.  Maybe it’s writing or removing clutter. Maybe you like helping others or working outside,using your hands. (The other day my brother and I volunteered with the Cal Ripken Sr. Foundation. When it came to choosing what we wanted to do, he opted for outside and gardening; I chose packing duffle bags and delivering the equipment. I had no desire to paint or do what he was doing.  Interesting, don’t you think? Even a simple exercise such as this brought to the forefront of what we liked to do).  While you may not have the answers pointing to one single career path, by knowing what you value, what you enjoy, and what you want to be known for is a great way to start focusing on what you want to do next so you can follow your dream!  Keep the faith and here’s to SOARing!

 

Is it a lost art?

It’s becoming a lost art, I discovered recently. Cursive is going by the wayside. I discovered on the fourth of July that they are not teaching handwriting in elementary schools anymore. Rather, they are focusing on typing skills. I was stunned when I heard this, ‘cause I love to write (although my cramped old hand pushes back at me at times) and I love to get hand written notes. So, another skill bites the dust.handwritten note

It made me wonder, however, if it would impact the thank-you note, particularly after a job interview. Typically, I encourage everyone that I work with to write a thank-you note after an interview. I have suggested that a personal, hand written note would make them stand out as a candidate. Why?  Because we are in-undated with emails at work and an email thank-you note can get lost in the inbox.  Perhaps, over time, I’ll need to change my thinking.

The thank-you note is, however, a terrific opportunity for you to address any points that you may have missed during the interview and gives you a chance to highlight any relevant achievements, experiences or, other important qualifications you didn’t get to mention in the meeting or even clarify something you would like the interviewer to remember. So, before throwing it totally to the wayside, give it some consideration.

Bottom line, take time to show your appreciation for the interview whether it’s a beautifully “scribed” note or an email.

Job Hunting: Thrill or Chill?

riding-a-roller-coasterSearching for the ultimate job can be a bit like a roller coaster ride, full of peaks and valleys.  To fully prepare for the thrill, it takes a little “down time” (the valleys) to make sure that you are “at the ready.”  You’ve probably heard that June and July are often slower times for finding a job (many recruiters are “chill in'”), yet there are a few things that you can do to be ready for when recruiters get back on the treadmill again in mid to late August.

–       Review your resume and cover letter, making sure that they are free of typo’s and grammatical errors

–       Do your research. Target some of the companies that you would like to work for and learn about them (e.g., what’s the key product; how would you describe their culture)

–       Get involved in LinkedIn and begin networking with others in your field

–       Clean up your social media profile.  Make sure your photos are appropriate and portray you as a responsible citizen. If you aren’t too sure of how you’d come across to an HR professional, the make sure that your settings are private

–       Stay positive. Having a good attitude leaves a good impression (in your cover letter; your social media, etc.)

It can be difficult to stay upbeat if you’ve been searching for months, but studies show that staying positive ensures a better chance of getting a job. Think of it as riding on the roller coaster and be prepared to S.O.A.R. after a few curves, loops and major hills to climb!

Talk About Timely

Last week I posted some tips or trends to help you with your job hunt and mentioned that you want to be cautious about what you post to social media.  In other words, don’t share the “partying hard” photos or the rants with many expletives in them. Your potential boss just won’t see the humor in it and will make a judgement on your judgement.

Today on a website for a local news station there was an article called “Software finds Facebook gaffes before potential boss does.”  I highly recommend you read it and, perhaps, leverage it to “scrub” your social media.  You know the old saying “an ounce of prevention . . .”

Here’s to S.O.A.R.ing in your new job!

A Few Job Hunting Trends for 2014

Hire MeYour electronic résumé is about to become more important than ever. Online applications have almost completely replaced paper applications. This is all the more reason for you to ensure that your resume is accurate, error free and tailored to the job description.

Expect that your potential employer will be screened through social media, video interviews and electronic reference systems.  Employers are now routinely running Web searches on candidates, looking at their social media accounts as well as their professional affiliations. Be sure that your LinkedIn profile is up-to-date and take care about what you are posting to your accounts, evaluating them from a professional perspective to make sure that your content is appropriate.  Think about practicing for a “video interview” as well as an in-person interview so that you are prepared.

Don’t totally throw out the “old ways.”  While “technology is kind,” it is still feasible to target where you would like to work, dress in your finest business attire, print out your résumé and go door to door to possible employers. You never know, their receptionist may take pity on you and hand deliver your résumé to the hiring manager.  So, if you are un-employed or have some bandwidth, by all means pound the pavement and let yourself be known.  Who knows, you may be successful in thwarting the online application trend.

Here’s to S.O.A.R.ing!

What Would People Say?

Social Media and YouJob hunting today is much different from the last time I was out in the market. Many employers are using social networking sites to “see if their potential candidate is well-rounded,” while others are finding “reasons not to hire someone.”  So, as they used to say in a very popular show from the 80’s, “let’s be careful out there.”  (Can any of you name that show?  Bonus points if you can name the actor).

According to an article I recently read in Forbes by Jacquelyn Smith, sites like Facebook, LinkedIn, Google+, and Facebook can give not only your friends, but future employers a glimpse of who you are far beyond the borders of a resume, cover letter, or interview. “About half of the employers interviewed said they didn’t offer a job candidate the position because of provocative or inappropriate photos and information posted on his or her profile; while 45% said they chose not to hire someone because of evidence of drinking and/or drug use on his or her social profiles. Other reasons they decided not to offer the job: the candidate’s profile displayed poor communication skills, he or she bad mouthed previous employers, made discriminatory comments related to race, gender, or religion, or lied about qualifications.”

Next time you are tempted to post your inner most thoughts of frustration or perhaps share that photo that doesn’t present you in a positive light, exercise caution.  Be sure that any profiles you are posting are free of typos, errors and the information makes sense. You may want to use this handy checklist to clean up your online image:

  • Evaluate your Privacy Settings – who can view your personal information
  • “Edit” Your Photos – take out the ones that are questionable.
  • Self Censor – Steer clear of inappropriate language, or language that can be construed as racist, sexist, offensive, or even culturally insensitive
  • Reevaluate Your “Groups” – back away from any group that could be taken as offensive.

If you really want a job, take the time to reflect on “what people would say about you” when checking out your site.  Perhaps, instead of spending more time “social media’ing,”  use that time to plan your job search and make those contacts.

Next posting I’ll share some tips on using social media to help land a job.

 

Things Successful People Do Differently

2014!  Another new year has arrived and I’ve been thinking about what I want to do this year.  As a matter of fact, as I wrote this, I wasSitting on Beach_for soar on hold waiting for help from my vacation planner, listening to some steel drum music. SWEET!!! The music made me think of warm sand, sounds of the surf and summer fun. It was quite a nice place for my mind to be, given that the weather forecasters were calling for a “major winter event”.  (That came to fruition, btw, and a little white stuff is always fun for a few days)!

A vacation can’t happen unless you have money, which requires a job or work. If you are in a job search, now is the time to focus and seize the day to make things happen. “Decades of research on achievement would suggest that “successful people reach their goals not simply because of who they are, but more often because of what they do.”

I’ve written previously about setting specific goals, so I encourage you to go back and check out those ideas. Today, I found an article on “Nine Things Successful People Do Differently” by Heidi Grant Halvorson and the last suggestion I felt would be very helpful for all of us, even if you aren’t in a job search.

“Focus on what you will do, not what you won’t do. Do you want to successfully lose weight, quit smoking, or put a lid on your bad temper? Then plan how you will replace bad habits with good ones, rather than focusing only on the bad habits themselves. Research on thought suppression (e.g., “Don’t think about white bears!”) has shown that trying to avoid a thought makes it even more active in your mind. The same holds true when it comes to behavior — by trying not to engage in a bad habit, our habits get strengthened rather than broken.

If you want to change your ways, ask yourself, “What will I do instead?” For example, if you are trying to gain control of your temper and stop flying off the handle, you might make a plan like “If I am starting to feel angry, then I will take three deep breaths to calm down.” By using deep breathing as a replacement for giving in to your anger, your bad habit will get worn away over time until it disappears completely.”

It’s time to focus on the top things you will do to find that perfect job versus thinking “I don’t have a job”.  Do:

  1. Check out a job site daily and apply for positions that interest you (Don’t forget to tailor your resume to meet the job specifications)
  2. Set up meetings with friends, previous co-workers and acquaintances, asking them to review your resume and provide you with suggestions, ultimately asking them to take a resume and share with others
  3. Build a LinkedIn profile and explore opportunities on this website

Do what you love to do and the money will follow (Great name for a book, eh?  Oh, wait, it is a book). Happy New Year!!!

 

Thankful People are Happy People

Have you noticed lately that people are posting things they are grateful for and thankful for on Facebook? It all began happening way before Thanksgiving! I have enjoyed seeing people looking at their lives with a positive twist and appreciation. Often, we get caught up in the “sorrow-monger” approach – you know, “you can’t believe what happened to me today?” or “Did I tell you about the latest catastrophe? I hit a deer, the tire blew and I broke a fingernail!”  “I need a job. I can’t find a job. No one wants to work with me!”  Throughout my years as a career coach and professional resume writer, I have discovered that those embracing a positive attitude throughout their career campaign will realize success far more quickly then the Negative Ned or Nellie!happy people at thanksgiving

Thinking about taking a positive approach and being thankful for the opportunity to look for a new job might help you in seeing things differently. Instead of doing the same thing day after day, such as reading the job postings, posting your resume and waiting for someone to contact you, try something new.  Explore a new industry or a new location to find the position you desire. Print out new resumes and ask “different” people to review it for you and, if they would, keep the resume and perhaps give it to someone else (network, network, network).  Take a course and polish up on a skill that may help you in a new job (e.g., Time Management Tips with Outlook; How to Create a Killer Presentation; Excel for the Not-So-Dumb”).

Job seekers must be keenly aware of how attitude affects everyone, including you. Take a few moments to reflect on your own attitude – regarding work, salary, career history, and your ideal future job. Think about your expectations and align your goals appropriately. By making a commitment to demonstrating a positive attitude throughout your career campaign, you are going to make the process less painful (perhaps enjoyable) and, ultimately, will generate successful results.

Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours!  I’m so thankful for the opportunity to share my ideas with you!

“Our beliefs about what we are and what we can be precisely determine what we can be.” – Anthony Robbins